We began therapy because of my partner’s affair. My trust was betrayed and my feeling of safety was crushed; I instinctively decided to leave.
After some time of living separately we realized, however, how much we mean to each other. Because of love that remained in spite of his cheating we decided to establish a new, better relationship. The pain we experienced was a warning sign that something was not as it should have been. We decided to begin therapy which proved very helpful, and our relationship and life in general became much better and more beautiful.
We learned that due to our cluelessness, unfulfilled needs and emotional wounds from our childhoods we often unconsciously acted in a wrong way. Due to work overload we devoted too little time to each other, and our relationship gradually declined.
It was only from the pain we had experienced that we learned that nothing can be taken for granted and that this pain is actually the result of true love.
We were most helped by compassionate support, listening and understanding of our problems we were not capable of coping with, let alone dealing with in such difficult situation, because pain was too severe. With the therapeutic help of Dr Nada Trtnik, who is an extraordinarily compassionate person with lots of positive energy, we faced the truth, started to deal with problems and pain, and found the reasons behind them. We opened and safely processed the “childhood baggage” which affected our present, and what followed was a great relief.
We realized that when you truly look into your heart you wake up; and that’s what we needed. We learned that a relationship is a living thing which, if we want it to thrive, needs everyday care as well as knowledge that we accumulate during our therapy sessions.
For us, this is a great experience that provided us with an opportunity to transform our future.